What is a bromance? We hear the word constantly now a days. It’s thrown around like “chemistry”, and it’s often affiliated with the friendship between two guys. But what is it really? Wikipedia calls it: “a close non-sexual relationship between two men, a form of affectional or homosocial intimacy.” So basically, two guys are so close that their not just friends, they’re on, like, a whole other level. But the lines can be pretty blurred when it comes to the true definition.
Originally this post started as just a little preface to my next Tuesday Top Five. However the more I wrote the more I had to say, and I thought, Man, this is something that really needs to be addressed in it’s own, personal post. As I was researching I came across a lot of people calling it “a close relationship between two heterosexual males”, as if to suggest a gay man can’t have a close relationship with another man without being in love with him. Now, in no way am I attacking the people out there who ship some of these guys, but I think that the bromance is something lovely that society is starting to turn into something homophobic. (Big shocker there though, huh?).
My question is why do we have to point out that the guys are straight? Why can’t it just be “a close relationship between two males”? Why does it matter if their gay or straight? If it isn’t specified as a romantic relationship than why bother specifying sexual orientation? Can two gay men not be close friends? Can a straight man not be close with a gay man? Same thing goes for lesbian women. It’s redundant, and unnecessary.
I think the problem today is that we categorize too much. We break people down into so many different sections that the basic truth that they are people gets lost somewhere it everything else. We forget that the short, cute, spanish girl that lives next door and the scrawny, blond, gay guy in your class have one major thing in common, they are a member of the human race. But that’s too hard to see, because you know we often can’t wrap our head around the fact that people different from us can feel the same things we do.
So I wanted to throw this out there, so that when you take a look at my top five picks, or you hear me talking about any bromance in general, know that I don’t believe it is something that is based off being gay or being straight. It’s based on friendship. And that is all.